I don't feel obligated
I had a lovely dinner with a couple of friends recently. The food was so so, the company was great. When the checks arrived, we started talking about tips. I mentioned that I tip before the tax. My friend replied she tips after the tax because she used to be a waitress and knows they don't make a lot of money. I replied back that I shouldn't feel obligated to give the waiter/waitress more just because they don't make a decent wage. Before you go spitting in my water the next time I'm dinning out, I typically tip 15% to 20% if the service is good.
I then mentioned it annoys me when you're at a store checking out and the clerk asks for your phone number. I always tell them I don't give out my personal information. That's when my other friend at dinner chimed in. She thinks I am being rude because the company makes them ask for phone numbers. I told her she should be mad at the company, not me. I don't feel obligated to give out my phone number. Some say I should give a fake number. That's beside the point. I want them to know I am not giving out my personal information.
While I am it, I find it increasingly annoying that a lot of stores now ask you to donate to some cause while you are checking out. Don't get me wrong, they are worthy causes but it seems I am being asked every time I go shopping. I used to feel guilty and just say yes. It is only a dollar after all. But now it's happening too often so I am not afraid to say no from time to time.
Am I becoming an old fart? Perhaps but I just don't feel obligated!